Keepers

I have been featured in this blog a couple times, but for those who don't know me my name is Dwayne Edwards. I'm 25 and a lover of gadgets, games, Basketball and most things Japanese.

For a while Tasha has been asking me to guest blog, perplexed by what I would write I found the thought daunting, often putting it off for as long as I could. But after a moment of inspiration, and following suit of Tasha's blog challenge, I have decided for the letter "K" I will blog about *Drum roll* Keepers.

To set the record straight, from the get go, this has nothing to do with Football. So let's dead that right now.

What this is about, are those women (or men if your a lady) who come around rarely so often. But when they do your entire world changes. Sort of  like hidden treasure you have worked so hard to find, and will not so easily let go.

What separates them from the rest is not so much how different they are, but how much they make a difference to you. 

When you're with them you think differently, experience emotions or feelings you rarely used to and the world just seems to become a better place, for those few fleeting moments.

I've had a few relationships, and not one I regret. 

That's because they made me who I am today. I dont know it all but I think I know a hell of a lot more than I used to. 

So with that being said I thought I would share a little bit about my keeper and some key things I have learnt and am trying to put into practice in keeping her.

Time: One of the most important things is time. Make time, even when you feel like you can't, make time. There is very rarely a moment when you don't have time, even to send a small small message, likkle text or WhatsApp, nothing long.  I feel that sometimes this is simply an excuse because we have not properly managed the moments that we have. I've learnt over time just how important time is, and how a lack of it can cause a relationship to break down. So even if you have to stay up late, wake up early, or buy a hands free so you can bang NBA 2K/FIFA at the same time and still talk to the bae.. do that. It will work better for you in the long run.

Attention:  The second thing I would say is attention. It's important for them to know that you're listening, but not only are you listening, you are actually taking in what is being said. For me this is one of the more harder tasks not because I suck a listening (I'm aiiitttteeee) but because my memory is like that of a goldfish, and Tasha goes into so much detail sometimes it's hard to remember the who and what, but i'm trying! Its also important to actually listen and not always try and put in your two cents, sometimes they don't want advice, they just want to moan(I know ... Don't ask ..) THIS I am still learning.

Effort: so I've been in a relationship almost 4 years now, and it is clear that there are some things that I did at the start of the relationship that I no longer do now. 

You know the things you do in those moments of euphoria where everything is fresh and you haven't really had time to settle your emotions down and really think about who and why. You're simply caught up in the moment and act accordingly. But I read this quote once and it was simply: "Never stop dating your wife". 
I ain't married (yet) but this can still apply, they say the honeymoon period of a relationship can last up two years, after that the veil is torn and you start to see them for who they really are, no longer blinded by your emotions. This is where you make the conscious decision to keep on loving this person regardless, or to move onto the next. 

If you do decide to keep on it takes a bit of effort, love should always be accompanied by action whenever necessary and possible. So make time, do stuff, I dunno what, but just DO STUFF. Flip, go Nandos for all I care, watch your favourite movies/TV shows together, go on outings, but most importantly DO STUFF. Explore her with the same fire that you did when she was that hot lighty you was trying to get to know. Date her as if you was she was a new one you're tryna show the levels. But most importantly don't let the fire die. It doesn't " just happen", you make a conscoius decision to fan a flame, or to simply let it burn.

Enjoy each other: Another thing Im in the process of learning and getting better at is loving the things she loves. Before I met Tasha I HATED (with a fiery burning passion) romantic comedies. Now i can't get enough of the stuff, I love to watch them with her and they are surprisingly very good entertainment, our fav is probably Friends With Benefits. She also was not keen on Marvel or action films, but that soon changed. I just need to get her onto anime and PS4 and that's a job done. She also likes to watch certain TV shows like EastEnders *yawn* but I try my best when watching it with her to be as involved as my mental capacity will allow me. We also like watching Scandal together and taking about the many conspiracy theories behind Olivia Pope and her crew. 

I am not 100% there yet but I'm drawing ever closer to the point I can love everything she loves.

Soooooooo annyyyhhoo these are just a few things, there is sooooo much more I could say, maybe another time if I decide to blog again. Until that day I bid you adieu and I hope you have enjoyed reading.

P.s. This was surprisingly easier than I thought.

Peace!

Dwayne